Threesomes can be a remarkable experience whether it’s a boring couple who feels the need to experiment or a single person who wants to explore their own sexuality.
If you’ve always wondered what a ménage a trois would be like, but you only went so far with the thought, that’s no problem, it may sound intimidating. Would you like to be the person outside the couple or find a third person with your partner? Should you try threesomes with friends or strangers? Could it be embarrassing? Let’s go into some details related to this topic and reveal some knowledge my friends have accumulated from this fantastic experience.
Threesome, tips for a successful first experience
Just understanding these pointers will ensure that you don’t make mistakes that could cost you a perfectly happy relationship with your partner!
#1 Don’t choose a friend. Avoid bringing a good friend to bed. The best person to have a job with is someone you know well, but preferably someone from a different area code or on vacation.
#2 Romantic feelings. Neither partner should have romantic feelings for the third person involved. It’s just sex. If you really just want a particular person in bed, you probably have some kind of feelings for them.
#3 Someone you know well. Avoid involving anyone you know well or have to see regularly. They’re going to do weird things if the trio doesn’t go your way. And besides, it always makes one of the partners feel insecure.
#4 Calm down. Drink a glass of alcohol to get rid of nervousness.
#5 Build intimacy. When the three of you meet, they don’t immediately dive into bed. Spend some time sitting together or having a few drinks. It builds intimacy so the threesome doesn’t feel like a weird experience with a random stranger.
#6 Use protection. You can never be too careful about STDs. Always use one hand to stimulate each partner and avoid switching hands. Keep plenty of condoms nearby and switch condoms every time there is a new penetration. Dental dams are also a good idea.
#7 There is no one left. It is very important to focus on your partner because they should never feel left out. You may forget your partner or be entertained by the arrival of a new person in bed.
#8 Keep yourself involved. Put your hands over the other two people in bed, even if you’re not directly involved or someone else. Don’t kill the mood by appearing bored or sitting back in the corner because the other two are having sex or each other.
#9 When a partner leaves the room. Stop whatever you’re doing when a partner leaves the room for any reason. Do not be intimate with the third person, not even a kiss, if a partner leaves to use the toilet. It’s the safest way to avoid creating insecurities, especially behind your partner’s back.
#10 Penetration. Penetration is always a difficult subject. Talk about it with each other beforehand. But if you’re still unsure, avoid penetration unless you know your partner is cool with the idea.
#11 Don’t let the love bites go. Leaving marks on the third person will disappoint your partner. And if you have a love bite from the third person, it will irritate your partner. So, just to be on the safe side, avoid any kind of passionate signs of love while you have a third!
#12 Don’t be selfish. Threesomes are more about giving and satisfying the other two people than satisfying yourself. If you want to be successful, focus more on others than on your own needs.
#13 Permission. If you’re not sure that something you’re doing would bother your partner, don’t do it. You can always look to your partner for confirmation. Asking your partner for permission for everything you do can sometimes ruin the mood. Set clear boundaries initially with your partner and don’t forget them in the heat of the moment.
#14 Third person. Paying too much attention to the third person can make your lover feel ignored. It may sound selfish, but if you care about your partner and your own relationship, always make sure you give more attention to your lover. The best way to make the third person feel more involved is to focus on that person with your partner. No one feels left out, and yet, no one feels insecure in this way.
#15 The next morning. Yes, the three of you had sex with each other all night. But if you involved someone of the opposite sex in bed last night, keep some distance from them after the affair is over. Don’t take extra care of the third person or spend more time talking to them.
How do we choose a third-sex partner?
Here things get a little complicated. From a statistical point of view, it is observed that sex parties with two women and one man are much more frequent and easier to accept compared to the other alternatives. Talk to your life partner and find out what he would like best.
Sexologists are of the opinion that it is much more advisable to choose a less close friend or even a stranger for the threesome. In this way, you can eliminate the risk of forming a love triangle that can culminate in the breakup of the relationship, with your partner leaving you for the other person.
Invite the person in question to your home and talk openly about a possible threesome. If he agrees, then you’ll need to set some ground rules. For example, you can tell him outright that you just want to have fun, without any emotional attachments. Also, talk about what you expect from this party (things he is allowed to do or not).
If everything is set, then you can get to work.
A threesome will not fix the relationship
If you and your partner do not understand each other anymore, it is best to talk about the problems you have. If no serious discussion without arguments or other problems works, it is best to go to a couple of therapists.
However, one thing is not clear: a threesome will not solve your relationship problems. In fact, it does nothing but complicates things. Such activity is suitable for very stable relationships, in which there are no arguments, in which the partners are open to new ideas and know that no one can destroy what exists between them.
If there are already arguments, threesomes do nothing but create new problems.
Moreover, arguments can make partners try to “take revenge” on each other, paying more attention to the third person. This leads to embarrassing situations that spoil everyone’s mood.
Likewise, sexual monotony is not a suitable reason either. Specialists say that if you want to have threesome sex with your partner because you are bored, it is best to focus on the reason why your sex life is monotonous, before bringing another person into the bedroom.
Otherwise, when that person leaves, this problem will still exist. Basically, you will become addicted to threesomes so that your sex life becomes more passionate.
When a third partner is not available, your relationship will most likely suffer.
The best positions for a threesome
By this point, I hope that you have met your triad members and that you can’t wait to take action.
What are you doing now?
The idea of having an extra person to keep in mind in the bedroom can be overwhelming, but with a little planning ahead, and awareness of what you’re going to do, things will become much, much easier. Let’s see some suitable positions.
The positions will vary according to the criterion of 2 women + 1 man or 2 men + 1 woman.
If it is a game of 3 with two men, here are some ideas:
- Double penetration – one partner penetrates anally, the other vaginally. One of the men can lie on his back, the woman on top, and the other can penetrate her from behind.
- Eiffel Tower- this funny name comes from the way the image with all the participants is seen from one side. The woman is penetrated from behind by one of the men, while she offers oral sex to the other.
- The missionary – the woman has one of the men between her legs, in the missionary position, and the other can kneel at the woman’s head, where she can give him oral sex, fully pampering his penis and testicles.
- On the edge – the woman will lie with her neck outside the edge of the bed. One of the men can penetrate you classically, while he will be able to offer oral sex to the other who will be sitting on the edge of the bed.
But what about 3-way sex with two women and a man?
- Double race – one of the women sits on his face, while the other sits in the classic position on top.
- 69 + 1- the two women will be in position 69, and the man will penetrate one of them. It is easier if one of the women will sit in the position on her back, and from the right angles, she can even have sex with the woman below.
- Navigation at a distance – the man penetrates the woman with his legs over her shoulders. The other woman rides the first to receive oral sex. The man and the woman can kiss casually, and caress each other’s breasts.
- In the boat – the man sits on his back with one of the women riding on his face. The other woman sits on top in the classic position, her hand extended to caress the other’s breasts or back.
So are you ready for your sexy job? Keep these threesome tips in mind before entering such a relationship, and you and your partner will feel closer and more connected after the threesome experience!
Mika tries everything and does not say no to challenges! Do you want to see her with other men? Do you want to see what they will do to her? Or do you just want to know how she was penetrated by several men at once? Come and talk to her!
